How to be alone and enjoy it?
We find ourselves constantly looking for a company, for some familiar face so that we don’t feel alone. But what’s so bad about being alone? Do we not know how amazing we are and therefore we try to find other people who would make us feel good? Let me share with you my advice on how to be alone and enjoy it. You might want to stick around, since this lesson you’ll carry your whole life. Because the relationship you have with yourself is the one that will last your whole life.
“Life is too short to waste any amount of time on wondering what other people think about you. In the first place, if they had better things going on in their lives, they wouldn’t have the time to sit around and talk about you. What’s important to me is not others’ opinions of me, but what’s important to me is my opinion of myself.”
― C. JoyBell C.
1. Get to know yourself.
If you want to learn how to enjoy your own company, you have to get to know yourself first. It’s the same process you had at the beginning of your every relationship, you have to get to know the person first. So what’s your story? What do you like about yourself? What are your small victories and the biggest successes? And what are the mistakes that have taught you the most valuable lessons? Be honest with yourself and journal what comes to mind. What are you good at? What makes you unique? After all these answers you’ll realize that you’re actually not so bad.
2. Take yourself out on a date.
Don’t be embarrassed by your own company. Don’t think that some may find it weird that you’re at the cafe by yourself. Who cares? We all need some time alone. So dress up and get a cup of coffee at your favorite coffee place. Or go to the movies by yourself. Take a one-day solo trip to some city near you and take pictures of everything. Make the most delicious dinner, get a glass of red and celebrate how amazing you are.Report this ad
3. Challenge yourself.
Take the time you have for yourself to try out something you always wanted but no one wanted to join you. Yoga class? Gym? Language classes? You know what it is. Realize that you can do it by yourself and do it. Don’t let anyone stop you. Also, you can start researching things that interest you, no one is going to judge you. In my case, at one point in January I had a lot of time for myself, so I started this blog. Not a bad idea, right? So far, very enjoyable.
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Think of something you’ve always wanted to accomplish and go for it.
4. Love love love yourself.
“The most terrifying thing is to accept oneself completely.”
― C.G. Jung
Give yourself a hug. When you wake up each day, put your hand on your heart and say ” (your name), I love you” (the idea I got from Erin May Henry’s video). Truth is, when we love ourselves, we love others as well. We are not judging other people. We are aware that we’re all human beings trying to live our best lives, trying to be happy. Don’t be too hard on yourself, realize what you’ve accomplished in your life. Be proud of yourself. Love yourself and be open to receive love from others.
At the end of the day, you’ll always have yourself. Be there for yourself. Always make yourself a priority. Nourish your body with quality food. Nourish your mind and soul with positive thoughts and be grateful for who you are. Because you are incredible.